Let Them Take Credit

michael w mclaughlinEver gone to a meeting and listened with dismay as a client took credit for your best ideas? Or maybe you’ve had to sit through a project wrap-up session in which your team’s effort was marginalzed and someone on the client side snagged the kudos for a job well done.

It’s hard not to fume when your hard work is pilfered. What do you do? Confront the idea thief? Ask the credit grabber to give your team a plug?

Your best option is to bite your tongue and say nothing. Why? I call it the Rule of Client Credit: By giving up the credit, you actually earn credit (and more business).

In any client meeting, you can be certain that the key people in the room know where the ideas they’re hearing came from. Sure, not everyone will get it, but those who matter most will. The same holds true for letting others have the glory for a project’s outcome. The right people are aware that they couldn’t have done it without you.

Instead of demanding equal tribute, allow your clients time in the spotlight. That selfless behavior will earn you something more valuable than short-term gratification: Respect and trust. Besides, you reap other rewards. The most obvious is that you get paid. Plus, you’re doing work you want to do (or you should be).

Of course, you can’t always follow the Rule of Client Credit. It’s not a good idea, for example, to stand by while someone mangles or misrepresents your ideas. In that case, you have to speak up and clarify–for the client’s sake.

For the most part, though, you’ll find that you benefit from letting clients take the credit. That’s not always easy on the ego, but it’s likely to lead to a stronger client relationships and more work. Isn’t that more important?

Facing an “Arms-Crossed” Client

More than once, I’ve had to face “arms-crossed” guy. You may know him (or her) too—the client whose body language flashes, “I don’t have time for this. I’m not interested. Do we have to do this?” Since reluctant clients often play an important part in piecing together a project, it’s essential to break through the negativity.

Sometimes, no matter what you do, “arms-crossed” guy won’t budge. But if you need that person’s help, you’ve got to try. Here are a few tips for coaxing information from an unwilling client.

Start Easy

If there’s no apparent threat or risk, “arms-crossed” guy may warm up. So start your conversation with the basics. Normally, though, this guy could care less what you think about the plaque on the wall honoring his community contribution seven years ago. Don’t go there.

Instead, begin by stating exactly what you want to learn, who sent you, and how you plan to use the information. Also, confirm how long the meeting will last. You’d probably do this introduction with anyone, but it’s critical with semi-hostiles.

Resist the urge to respond to snide comments about the project, your role, or anything else that gets lobbed at you. Once you take that bait, you’ve lost the possibility of turning a bad meeting into something useful.

Then launch into easy, factual questions, for example, “How many people do you manage?” “How has your business (or function) grown, and who are your best customers?” The point: Start without controversy, show that you listen, care, and have credibility.

Plus, resist the urge to respond to snide comments about the project, your role, or anything else that gets lobbed at you. Once you take that bait, you’ve lost the possibility of turning a bad interview into something useful.

You might be able to pierce the wall of resistance by letting a reluctant client talk. Simple, fact-based questions offer the client an opportunity to thaw. Allow time for your client to expand on answers by pausing for several seconds after each response before you dive into the next question.

Define Your Must-Haves

If your meeting isn’t going well and there’s little hope of turning it around, check your notes. Identify the essential information you must have from this individual. Usually, you’ll have options for finding what you need elsewhere. Still, zero in on what only this person can give you and ask away.

Keep a brisk pace as you move through your questions, but don’t leave the impression that you’re writing off the meeting. Treat the reluctant client as an important part of your process, no matter how hard that is.

Get Closer to the Issue

Once you’ve finished the meeting, you’ll need to confirm whatever you learned. Find others who can flesh out your information, interpret what you know, and point you to others who can help. When you’re rebuffed by a client, get closer to the problem. Find people who are directly affected by the issue and seek out their opinions.

No matter how much “arms-crossed” guy resists, you’ve got to stay above the fray. Don’t complain about him to others in the client’s organization—chances are they already know about the attitude. And don’t avoid him in the future. Who knows—“arms-crossed” guy might turn out to be your best ally; treat him well and keep chipping away.

James Kouzes: Being a Leader

James Kouzes

James Kouzes

There’s nothing extraordinary that’s ever gotten done by a single individual.

In this podcast, I talk with James Kouzes, co-author with Barry Posner of the international bestseller, The Leadership Challenge, How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations. For more than 30 years, Kouzes and his colleagues have examined what it takes to become a leader who people will choose to follow.

Kouzes and I talk about three essential behaviors that help define a great leader. We also discuss the barriers people face as they work to become better leaders and how to address those challenges.

The Ten Commitments of Leadership

  1. Clarify Values – Affirm shared values.
  2. Set the Example – Live the shared values. Teach others to model the values.
  3. Envision the Future – Imagine the possibilities. Find a common purpose.
  4. Enlist Others – Appeal to common ideals. Animate the vision.
  5. Search for Opportunities. Seize the initiative. Exercise outsight.
  6. Experiment and Take Risks. Generate small wins. Learn from experience.
  7. Foster Collaboration. Create a Climate of Trust. Facilitate relationships.
  8. Strengthen Others. Enhance self-determination. Develop competence and confidence.
  9. Recognize Contributions. Expect the best. Personalize recognition.
  10. Celebrate the Values and Victories. Create a spirit of community. Be personally involved.

Adapted from The Leadership Challenge, How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations, by Kouzes and Posner.

You can find out more at www.leadershipchallenge.com. You might also be interested in another podcast I conducted with Jim Kouzes,  How to Gain Credibility as a Leader.

Podcast run time: 15:03

Intro music exluna by Jakub Koter

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